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So I recently got engaged a few months ago, and took some time off to do so. Before I put in for vacation, I told my Boss that I would need the time off because i was planning to propose, but i didn't
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posted at 3/11/2009 11:28 AM EDT
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So I recently got engaged a few months ago, and took some time off to do so. Before I put in for vacation, I told my Boss that I would need the time off because i was planning to propose, but i didn't want anyone to know because it was to be a small family affair. She said "don't worry I wont tell anyone". It's not 6 months later and another Co-worker comes into me and says "hey I heard you got engaged, congratulations". I asked him where he heard that from and he said "Name" which was the only person i mentioned it to 6 months prior (my boss).

Now to make this worse, another co-worker was behind me when this was said, so now he knows as well. I dont know what to think now. Is there any action i can take? My Boss is one of the officers of the company.

Now the office is uncomfortable becuase employees are now offended that I didn't tell them.

Any suggestions?
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Privacy & Trust

posted at 3/11/2009 11:43 AM EDT
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from my experience you have no recourse legally. You may want to speak to the boss or you may just want to let it go.
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Privacy & Trust

posted at 3/11/2009 12:58 PM EDT
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I would probably just chalk this up to a good learning experience: Keep your boss on a need-to-know basis and don't disclose anything you want kept private.
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Privacy & Trust

posted at 3/11/2009 5:34 PM EDT
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Honestly, I would build a bridge and move on. Getting/Being engaged is not a confidential situation. If you didn't want anyone to know, then you should have told no one.

I also imagine that your boss assumed that you didn't want to ruin the surprise proposal, but that one the engagement happened that it was no longer a secret.

If someone now asks, you can still say the same thing. That the engagement/wedding is going to be a small, private affair.

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Privacy & Trust

posted at 3/13/2009 5:24 AM EDT
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First: 11/21/2005
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everyone makes mistakes, if you can't forgive and move on, you should talk to your boss.
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