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I am an HR professional who works in the public sector. I had a working and some times personal relationship with one of our staff members (she's not in the HR department). When I say personal, I mean
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posted at 8/19/2004 6:28 AM EDT
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I am an HR professional who works in the public sector. I had a working and some times personal relationship with one of our staff members (she's not in the HR department). When I say personal, I mean that occasionally we may go out socially after work; she has been to my home on one occasion. Additionally, this co-worker is substantially older than me with more professional experience. Additionally, since she had more experience, I would bounce ideas off of her and ask for her advice in certain situations. I thought I could trust her. Well, I shared some information with her that was confidential and that I should not have shared. Although, I wasn't sure about the info, it was about her. I told her that I didn't know it to be absolutely true, but this is what I think. I know that this was absolutely unprofessional and I should not have shared this info with her. She in turn, goes to management, including her manager and tells management that I told her this information. I was subsequently reprimanded and the incident was put in writing and put in my file. Although, I know that I should not have shared this information with her, it is beyond me why what I thought was a friend would go to management and tell them what I did. Now, I obviously feel very embarrassed and remorseful. My question is, how do I regain the trust of management? Or should I just resign? |
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posted at 10/20/2004 10:46 AM EDT
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First: 6/30/2004 Last: 11/22/2010 |
Sounds like you learned a lesson about this person and about sharing confidential information. Can Humpty Dumpty be put back together again? Discuss this openly and honestly with your the people in your direct reporting chain. Ask them if there is some way you can restore the luster to your shine. Then carefully listen to their words and carefully examine whether or not you believe them and whether or not you can do the things they might suggest to restore your potential.
Then you will know whether or not it is time to move on. |
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posted at 11/1/2004 7:11 AM EDT
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First: 9/30/2004 Last: 12/12/2008 |
You have just learned a very hard lesson, and one that can be devastating. In my opinion, people in HR may NOT have friends in the workplace. I know this sounds harsh to some people; however, as HR professionals we cannot afford the perception of conflict of interest, or potential breach of confidentiality. I would advise you to find a coach/mentor who is NOT in your organization who can help you think through difficult issues. And I hope this rift passes quickly without damage to your career. |
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posted at 12/14/2004 5:10 PM EST
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First: 12/7/2004 Last: 12/15/2004 |
Hi
just now i read this. fine. it has happened. think of next step. in my opinion this is how u coulddo it: - to lie low just for sometime (which u hv done by now) - confront yr friend to know why she did this - armed with info, directly talk to yr boss about repairing the damage done to yr career - take his/her advise then see the authorities whoever has put the remark in yr file. discuss, be assertive, u r doing this for YOU (who is very important person in your life) - if not successful, meet once again, till u get some positive remark (but always take prior appointment) - when the repair work is complete, act as if nothing has happened. consciously forget what has happened. - say after a couple of months, when this is forgotten by everyone, THEn ONLY THEN u think of moving from this organisation. (I am a little late on the scene, I hope you hv sorted this matter already). all the best |
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